Nick Martin asked:


Is the ability to flirt an inborn skill?. Flirting is a skill that can be mastered by anyone. All it takes is practice. There are a number of different approaches you can take.

The first thing you need to know is that flirting can be done by anyone. You don’t need to be drop dead gorgeous, athletic or super intelligent either. People will be attracted to the qualities that are unique to you. Before you can flirt successfully you need to begin with understanding yourself. Learning more about your own qualities and learning how to use them, flirting is essentially a skill of quiet confidence.

So what can you do to make sure others know you are a fantastic person? Primarily, flirting is something which is not conveyed through speech. The eyes are the window to the soul and they are also an excellent starting point for learning how to flirt. We’ve probably all experienced the situation when you’re sat in a room, disinterested with the goings on, and then someone catches your eye and you both hold it for a couple of seconds. What is it about you that caught and held someone’s attention, even if only momentarily? There are many different levels at which you can convey your interest, just by the different types of look you give. Flirting can incorporate many different types of gaze. Once of the most potent flirting techniques is to catch a stranger’s eye, hold it for a few seconds, break and then make eye contact once again. This say “Hey, I want to flirt”, and you then need to interpret their reaction to see if they want to reciprocate. The next level of flirting is to give them a specific look which says “I’m having naughty thoughts about you!” Sometimes this is done with a lingering gaze, sometimes with an up-and-down-the-body glance and sometimes with a stare, which suggests that you are hungry and looking to devour them.

Eye contact is obviously crucial, but should be used along with other kinds of body language. Positioning your body in such a manner that shows you are open to communication is crucial to the art of flirting. Learn how to adapt your body language to the signals they give you and you will quickly become an expert in the art of flirting. Develop these skills, and your self-esteem will increase too, making flirting enjoyable and nothing to be scared of.